Good Parenting?

[HSanders]

Sure, he’s within his rights. But is there a better way to teach your kids a lesson about bullying rather than shaving his head, humiliating him, and posting a video on TikTok for the world to see.

Where I agree with you is I don't think it should have been posted on TikTok. I think the point of that punishment should have been to show the kid what it's like to have your personal dignity violated.Like he did to that kid. Kids are incredibly selfish/self centered and need to be taught that the world does not revolve around them.and that they can't be a do as I say not as I do or I can dish it out and can't take it type of person. Now he's gonna have to explain to all his little friends why he has no hair. over and over again. it's gonna get drilled into his head that the reason he doesn't have hair is because he made fun of somebody that he shouldn't have.

 

[TB12 Goat]

Unpopular opinion....

I think the parent(s) may need to at least in part look in the mirror.

In my opinion, kids do not wake up one day and decide I am going to make this other kid's life shit by bullying them... It is a learned behavior. Either by doing it once and not getting told that we do not do that or learned from from friends or family....

EDITED POST.

 

[Ice_Ice_Brady]

Unpopular opinion....

I think the parent(s) may need to at least in part look in the mirror.

In my opinion, kids do not wake up one day and decide I am going to make this other kid's life shit my bullying him... It is a learned behavior. Either from friends or family....

Correct opinion.

The dad is bullying the son under the guise of discipline / parenting. It’s obvious, and reinforced with his victory lap on social media. No one should have any questions about why this kid is also a bully. Cycle will just repeat.

 

[Deus Irae]

Sure, he’s within his rights. But is there a better way to teach your kids a lesson about bullying rather than shaving his head, humiliating him, and posting a video on TikTok for the world to see.

History demonstrates otherwise.

 

[Dingleberry]

I knew there would be some different opinions finally.

And I can't believe I'm going to say this, but I agree with @Ice_Ice_Brady and pctronics aka @TB12 Goat


I will not say the guy in the video is exhibiting bad parenting. However, I would NEVER do that to my son. Just wouldn't do it.

But like pc said, the parent really needs to take a long look in the mirror if his kid would do that. Despite my rough exterior, my son has grown up knowing that compassion and empathy for those suffering is a virtue. If he did something cruel to a kid with cancer? My disappointment and the words I would have for him would crush him.

But maybe this guy's kid needed what he got. Every kid is different.

 

[Ice_Ice_Brady]

History demonstrates otherwise.

Not at all. History demonstrates that behaviors are typically learned and generational. The boy is likely learning to act out due to his own parents, and he’s learning how to use this “discipline” from his father. When he grows up and had kids, he’ll probably do the same “teaching him a lesson by humiliating him” shit his dad is doing here.

Doesn’t seen to be working out too well for this family.

Disclaimer: I’m by no means a perfect dad. And almost every area of parenting is a gray one. So I’m not going to tell you all that hard discipline is wrong. But I do believe in this case, given the boy’s crappy behavior and wondering about its origins, and seeing the dad humiliate and strip away his dignity like this, I have strong suspicions that this is not the way.

 

[HSanders]

Unpopular opinion....

I think the parent(s) may need to at least in part look in the mirror.

In my opinion, kids do not wake up one day and decide I am going to make this other kid's life shit by bullying them... It is a learned behavior. Either by doing it once and not getting told that we do not do that or learned from from friends or family....

EDITED POST.

that's a valid point for sure.

 

[Deus Irae]

Not at all. History demonstrates that behaviors are typically learned and generational.

While part of parenting is knowing what is best for your particular children, and that different kids respond differently to various punishments and praises, history shows nothing to be superior overall to a good ass kicking, physical, verbal, or "humiliating". That's just reality. All the new age bullshit is just that: new age bullshit. Dr. Spock and his ilk did a lot of damage to this country.

And the notion that "humiliating" your kid is bad parenting is just plain ridiculous.

 

[jlaff]

Maybe, but I think humiliation fits the crime of bullying a kid with cancer…

The kid won’t ever fuck with cancer kids ever again, right?

It may be the best lesson in empathy he ever gets.

 

[Lord Chevy]

Sure, he’s within his rights. But is there a better way to teach your kids a lesson about bullying rather than shaving his head, humiliating him, and posting a video on TikTok for the world to see.

Ok .. I agree with the bolded part.

 

[Lord Chevy]

Legally, yes. Otherwise, no.

It is very different.

You’re dumb.

Seems like I hit a nerve. Good.

 

[Tony2046]

Sure, he’s within his rights. But is there a better way to teach your kids a lesson about bullying rather than shaving his head, humiliating him, and posting a video on TikTok for the world to see.

Ok. I agree. Posting the video is a problem and wrong. Shaving the head doesn't bother me.

 

[Deus Irae]

Ok. I agree. Posting the video is a problem and wrong. Shaving the head doesn't bother me.

First, note that I think no one should be posting any pictures or videos which other people in them, unless they get their consent.


Second, my above comment aside, why is it that you, personally, think posting that video was a problem and wrong? I ask out of curiousity, not because of any kind of disagreement or agreement.

 

[Tony2046]

First, note that I think no one should be posting any pictures or videos which other people in them, unless they get their consent.


Second, my above comment aside, why is it that you, personally, think posting that video was a problem and wrong? I ask out of curiousity, not because of any kind of disagreement or agreement.

Because posting the video seems selfish on the father's behalf. It wasn't a part of the punishment rather a father seeking "clicks" I think it’s a form of betrayal of trust between the father and son.

 

[Deus Irae]

Because posting the video seems selfish on the father's behalf. It wasn't a part of the punishment rather a father seeking "clicks" I think it’s a form of betrayal of trust between the father and son.

Thank you for your answer.

 

[Godzilla]

Great parenting removing his hair to teach him a lesson, bad parenting posting it on TikTok for the world to see.

 

[Deus Irae]

Great parenting removing his hair to teach him a lesson, bad parenting posting it on TikTok for the world to see.

Again, just asking and not coming down on any one side:


What if the kid, himself, is one that posts everything on Tik Tok? Does that change your position?

 

[666]

Again, just asking and not coming down on any one side:


What if the kid, himself, is one that posts everything on Tik Tok? Does that change your position?

I can't speak for Godzilla, but me personally could never upload punishment of my child even if he/she would be active on the net.

 

[Deus Irae]

I can't speak for Godzilla, but me personally could never upload punishment of my child even if he/she would be active on the net.

Thank you for your answer.